Fighting Premature Ejaculation

The best way to fighting premature ejaculation is learning how to identify and control the sensations leading up to orgasm. The Masters and Johnson method does just that. The Masters and Johnson method requires a great deal of patience and practice, but is very effective. Follow the steps below.

Once you have an idea about your ‘point of no return’ you should be able to direct stimulation from your partner leading up to orgasm. The best way to practice this method is with a caring lover, although you can try to prepare by yourself. With your partner, engage in non-coital stimulation (like masturbation or oral sex) and gradually allow yourself to reach that point just before ejaculation. At that point, signal your partner to stop (often this is done with a light squeeze or sound) and allow yourself to partially lose your erection. Repeat these steps several times to get the hang of it. You should practice these steps for several days before you attempt intercourse.

Once you are ready to try intercourse, lay on your back and direct your partner to slowly allow you to penetrate. As soon as you feel that you are about to climax, signal to your partner or give a gentle push upward. Relax for a bit, then begin again. You should soon be able to control your ejaculation and enjoy having sex.

Although the method is extremely effective, it could take weeks before you get it just right. Remember, be patient and try not to put too much pressure on the situation. If you don’t get it the first time, shrug it off and remember that you are working towards something that takes time. If you still have trouble, don’t hesitate to contact a sex therapist for guidance.

Squeeze technique

The squeeze technique is really just a variation of the Masters and Johnson method, except that the assisting partner squeezes the tip or base of the penis just before the point of climax to essentially cancel the orgasm. The ‘squeeze’ forces blood out of the penis and reduces the erection. You may want to use the squeeze technique if the Masters and Johnson method alone is not working.

Masters and Johnson (Start and stop technique):

The best way to fighting premature ejaculation is learning how to identify and control the sensations leading up to orgasm. The Masters and Johnson method does just that. The Masters and Johnson method requires a great deal of patience and practice, but is very effective. Begin by bringing your husband to a point relatively close to climax, and stop, allowing himself to relax before starting again. Repeating this procedure a number of times on different occasions will help him learn where his point of climax is. Once he has an idea about his “point of no return”, he should be able to direct stimulation leading up to orgasm.

The best way to practice this method is with a caring spouse. You should practice these steps several times before you attempt intercourse. Once you are ready to try intercourse, make him lay on his back and slowly allow him to penetrate. As soon as he feel that he is about to climax, he should signal to you. Relax for a bit, then begin again. He should soon be able to control his ejaculation and enjoy having sex.

Although the method is extremely effective, it could take weeks before you get it right. Remember, be patient and try not to put too much pressure on the situation. If you don’t get it the first time, shrug it off and remember that you are working towards something that takes time. If you still have trouble, don’t hesitate to contact a sex therapist for guidance.

Squeeze technique

The squeeze technique is really just a variation of the Masters and Johnson method, except that you squeeze the tip or base of the penis just before the point of climax to essentially cancel the orgasm. The “squeeze” forces blood out of the penis and reduces the erection. You may want to use the squeeze technique if the Masters and Johnson method alone is not working.

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Stop-Start Method

The stop-start method is a similar form of training the man to control his ejaculatory reflexes and to better understand and measure sensations from sexual stimulation. For this method, the partner stimulates the man until the man instruct the partner to stop before ejaculating is inevitable. When he feels like he has regained control, the partner will continue stimulation until he instructs the stimulation to cease. After this cycle is repeated three times, the man is allowed to achieve orgasm on the fourth cycle. Like the Masters and Johnson technique, a progression steadily rises so that the degree of stimulation (ex: from manual to oral) increases each time, culminating in intercourse. This method requires a partner’s cooperation but has been successful for a couple’s mutual benefit.

The Masters-Johnson method

This method cures the vast majority of men, provided that both partners are keen to co-operate (which isn’t always the case). It is based on a special ‘penis grip’ developed by the American therapists Masters and Johnson.

The finger-grip abolishes the desire to climax, so if, under careful instruction, the couple use it over a period of weeks, they can usually re-train the man so he can last much longer.

What does it involve?

Your partner places her hand so that her thumb is on one side of the man’s erect penis (the nearer side to her when she is facing him).

Her index and middle fingers are on the other side.

The index finger is just above the ridge of the glans (the ‘head’), while the middle finger is just below the ridge.

When the man feels that he’s near to a climax, he tells his partner.

She then squeezes his shaft firmly between her thumb and the other two fingers. (Don’t worry: it’s painless!)

The programme and the grip can work for male couples as well as for heterosexual ones.

Does it work?

We have seen many men with PE who couldn’t last for 30 seconds, who were able to last as long as half an hour after careful training over a period of months. But unless this is done as part of an organised programme, it probably won’t work.

The Masters and Johnson grip really needs to be demonstrated to you personally by an expert. Most couples who try to learn it from the Internet or a book get it wrong.

Our advice: see a professional. In the UK, try one of the organisations listed at the end of this article.

Squeeze technique

The squeeze technique is really just a variation of the Masters and Johnson method, except that the assisting partner squeezes the tip or base of the penis just before the point of climax to essentially cancel the orgasm. The “squeeze” forces blood out of the penis and reduces the erection. You may want to use the squeeze technique if the Masters and Johnson method alone is not working.

Masters and Johnson Method

The best way to fighting premature ejaculation is learning how to identify and control the sensations leading up to orgasm. The Masters and Johnson method does just that. The Masters and Johnson method requires a great deal of patience and practice, but is very effective. Follow the steps below.

You may want to start with masturbation. Begin by bringing yourself to a point relatively close to climax, and stop, allowing yourself to relax before starting again. Each time you do this, bring yourself closer and closer to orgasm until you cannot control it any longer. You may want to practice with the aid of a lubricant. We recommend trying Astroglide. Repeating this procedure a number of times on different occasions will help you learn where your point of climax is.

Once you have an idea about your “point of no return” you should be able to direct stimulation from your partner leading up to orgasm. The best way to practice this method is with a caring lover, although you can try to prepare by yourself. With your partner, engage in non-coital stimulation (like masturbation or oral sex) and gradually allow yourself to reach that point just before ejaculation.

At that point, signal your partner to stop (often this is done with a light squeeze or sound) and allow yourself to partially lose your erection. Repeat these steps several times to get the hang of it. You should practice these steps for several days before you attempt intercourse. Once you are ready to try intercourse, lay on your back and direct your partner to slowly allow you to penetrate. As soon as you feel that you are about to climax, signal to your partner or give a gentle push upward. Relax for a bit, then begin again. You should soon be able to control your ejaculation and enjoy having sex.

Although the method is extremely effective, it could take weeks before you get it just right. Remember, be patient and try not to put too much pressure on the situation. If you don’t get it the first time, shrug it off and remember that you are working towards something that takes time. If you still have trouble, don’t hesitate to contact a sex therapist for guidance.